The intensity of our emotions can often run ahead of us. So rather than judging ourselves, remember there is value in ALL emotions.
I often quote three lines from Rudyard Kipling’s poem, ‘If’.
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster, and treat those two impostors just the same…Then yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it.”
As human beings, we tend to run away from disaster and run toward triumph. We chase happiness and feel sorry for anything untoward that happens to us. We judge triumph as good and disaster as bad, and wonder where our power went.
But when we remember we are spiritual, soulful, conscious beings, we know there are gifts in both triumph AND disaster. It's in deciphering the messages through the emotional intensity, that we receive those gifts.
Our emotions come from a wordless part within us that transmits a feeling. When we are in an expanded soul connected state, we can use our natural awareness to invite the emotional wisdom to come forward.
When we engage with our emotions in this way, we can learn to decipher both the information and energy they carry. This is how we can receive the gift.
Anger, for instance, invites us to protect ourselves or to protect others. Anger is usually associated with a failure of our own expectations. If you expressed your anger as rage or chose to sit on it to be polite, you would be missing anger's important information.
But if you saw your anger as the energetic messenger it is, you can ask it, "What needs to be protected?"
The message you receive can help you work with your anger to see the choices and make the movements that are relevant.
You can do the same thing with the emotion of sadness.
Sadness invites you to stop and let go of something that no longer works. Maybe it’s a relationship, a belief, a job, a habit, but whatever it is, the time has run out, and you’re feeling it.
Most people don't stop when sadness appears. Instead they distract themselves with work, television, the internet, alcohol, drugs, eating, socializing, exercising... Then they're surprised when their lives stop working, or when they find themselves in a depressed state.
But if they welcomed their sadness, if they asked it, "What needs to be released?" - another great question! - it would help them identify the attachments that no longer work in their life so they can choose to let go of them and move on.
Grief is another exquisite emotion that helps us become fully human and fully alive. That may seem like a contradiction, but it's not.
I know grief intimately. It invites us to drop down to truly mourn the passing of what or whom we love and value. If we don't make that journey, we can't move forward wholly in our life. Grief bridges our reconnection to life after we’ve experienced deep and profound loss.
Some people fear that grief will break them in two. Yet that’s not what happens. In true grief, the heart breaks open, not apart. You aren't emptied by grief. You're expanded. And when you come up and out of grief, you begin to exhale. There’s more room to breathe and more capacity to love.
The point is that every one of your emotions has a message of information in its energy. So if all your emotions invite a complete and vital realm of responses, you'll WANT to access them all.
Like disaster though, most people tend to repress the emotions they don’t want to have, and focus on the triumph ones like happiness.
Don’t get me wrong, peace and joy are lovely emotional states, but they’re only two states among all the others. If you focus only on these emotions it creates a repression. Over time that repression creates a complete lack of richness in the personality, and in how one experiences life.
Most people suffer through the dark emotions or grab for the pleasant ones. The contrast makes maintaining an equilibrium difficult.
An uninspired way to handle depression, for example, is to try to shake it off with distractions such as drink or drugs or food. Even prescription drugs. Neither option brings consciousness to the depression itself. Both options cement depression into a repetitive state.
And what if you brought skills and consciousness to depression? You would find out why your energy is gone, where it might be, and what your inner or higher self is trying to say to you.
Sometimes, depression is a reaction to an unhealed relationship. Other times it’s a physiological response to something in your environment. And often, it's a reaction to unrelieved trauma.
Of course, it’s different for each of us, and at different times. Yet by welcoming the messages instead of running away from them, your emotions can become a valuable tool in your growth and development.
Most people get stuck when they think they have to get quiet and go inside themselves to access the messages of their emotions. When they are in their greatest fear or pain - asking for meaning by themselves can often be more painful or fearful. That's where I come in.
As a compassionate consciousness conduit and guide, I help to access the deepest states of awareness where the messages of emotions are found, whether the emotions are rage, shame, guilt, jealousy, fear, or anything else.
Together we can create the next level of understanding and freedom.
If you're ready to look for the messages, start here and we'll strategize the best course of action so you and your emotions can form a more intimate, understanding relationship.