It’s my son Connor’s birthday today. He tells me he’s forever 22. Works for me.
I had a good long chat with him the other day. I was cleaning out even more of my books when he came through.
I used to clean out my books every year with Connor, so it stands to reason he would be easier to come through when I take on this activity. I find I have to clean out my books less often nowadays because I’m committed to going nearly paperless - and that means there’s not a lot of accumulation.
So I’m down to only a handful of books now. I’ve gone digital with my photographs, music, movies, taxes. It feels very free and light. Almost ethereal. Again, it makes sense.
Most of the books I’ve accumulated over the last handful of years were in the studies of the history, psychology, and sociology of life after death. You know, the afterlife.
Before I had the first-hand experiences I now have (thank you, Connor 2.0), those books added tremendous insight and value to an area of understanding that is steeped in superstition, myth, and fear.
I picked up Julia Assante's ‘The Final Frontier’ for the last time the other day and flipped through it again. As some of you will recall, after I originally read her book, I immediately emailed her, then phoned, and together we chatted for hours.
As a soul regression practitioner for many years, I used to guide clients through their past lifetimes and deaths in those lifetimes to help them understand the purpose of the life they just reviewed and to assess what they were bringing from them into their current life.
I eagerly guided over 30,000 soul journeys in those decades, so moving beyond death is quite commonplace, quite comfortable for me. I like to think I don't have a fear of death because I not only worked with it as a transformational tool, but I'm surrounded by it in my own family. I know that makes me unique and therefore a leader in this field. Julia Assante and I had that in common.
Julia believed the fear of death was running the world. I see evidence of that everywhere. She looked at how the fear of death was produced in our society, in the media, in the health and beauty industries, including pharmaceuticals and insurance, which are the industries that most directly impact us on a daily basis. Together they have 'pathologized' death.
And there is also fear of death drummed into us through governmental institutions, education, the constant-growth economic policy, and the sciences. All these exploit the fear of death, usually for profit, by disseminating visions of an unsafe world, and the body as a time bomb.
The result is that we live in relentless anxiety of imminent attack, whether by terrorists, war, disease, ageing, accidents, or natural disasters.
We are taught that death is the number one enemy, and that life is always superior to death, no matter how devalued that life may be.
Because of our fear-based orientation, we have lost all natural trust in a benign universe, in the wisdom of the soul, and in the body’s ability to heal itself.
The few scientists who might want to research the survival issue, risk ridicule, loss of funding and their professional positions. Most scientists also ignore the mountain of evidence for survival that already exists, in part because the evidence so far has not met their standards for scientific proof of replicable, clinically controlled tests. There's that three-dimensional reality again.
Julia claimed that if we lost our fear of death we would be in a position to truly grasp immortality. My point as well. Then everything changes.
Our inner awareness of what is really important for the planet and all its residents, now and in the future, will resurface. Dying would no longer be the end, but a small turning point in the life of the eternal self. It doesn't get more sacred and profound than that.
Studies show that people who have lost this fear have measurably increased mental, intellectual, and psychic capacities. They become more reflective, more spiritual, more altruistic, and more sensitive to nature and the environment. They also develop a hunger for greater knowledge. In equal balance, prejudice and a “them-versus-us” mentality give way to concern and compassion for others. The primary desire for success and material gain fades away, as does the need to compete.
Instead, people who lose their fear of death feel a sharpened sense of personal life purpose that invariably involves service. Imagine a world populated by people like this everywhere!
Everybody - even atheists - secretly talk to those in the afterlife to some degree or another. Yet at the same time, we are taught to disbelieve the validity of it.
Why is it then that an average of 58% of people polled had spontaneous afterlife communication? That's not even counting common deathbed visitations, induced communication, communication through mediums, and with children.
75% never mention the experience because of fear of ridicule. These polls are representative of the general population, meaning more than half of the population is aware of having contact with those in the afterlife. Many more have it without realizing it.
What those in the afterlife do and say almost always takes us by surprise anyway, which shows that they are independent of our thoughts. Wishful thinking does not save lives, but warnings from those who have passed on, do. Fantasy won’t instantly heal a person of post-traumatic stress disorder, but a visit from someone who has passed on, can.
The fear of communication that has been passed down over the years is partly the result of the imprint of biblical injunction against necromancy, which was punished by stoning. The injunction arose not to protect the living from the dead, but because the dead were considered gods or divine spirits.
Another source of fear is the feeling that contact with the dead will pull you over to the other side. That is about as logical as believing that talking to someone on the phone from Hawaii will automatically transport you there, never to return. (We can only wish...)
The instant alleviation of grief is the number one (and most popular) reason to explain some of the benefits of afterlife communication, but I know that's just the tip of the iceberg. I know there is much, much more, and over the last few years, I’ve been exploring it.
Knowing that relationships between the earth-bound and those in the afterlife continue to grow, transforms the way we live and the way we die. That's the big piece.
Contact with those in the afterlife also brings us face-to-face with immortality, a life-changing event. Sure, we get messages of reassurances, encouragement, warnings, forgiveness, etc. but greater than that, communication with those in the afterlife helps us reset our values to build, and live in, a better world.
As communication develops, we are able to tap into the greatest resource of knowledge imaginable about everything, including the nature of reality itself: Why are we here? What is our purpose? What happens next?
So why should people even think about the afterlife?
Knowing something real about the afterlife, rather than relying on what religions, traditions, and the media tell us, takes the fear out of living and dying, and replaces it with wonder. It makes dying immeasurably easier while opening the pathway for communication.
Any knowledge of the afterlife we gain before we die eliminates confusion, suffering, and even hallucinations after death that are caused by false expectations and misconceptions. I see that on a daily basis as I transition clients from their past life experience through their death. You can't dispute the facts when they are right in front of you.
Understanding the afterlife means understanding eternity. When we truly understand eternity, our day-to-day stresses seem impossibly small, and we let them go. The result is a more robust life, lived with courage and purpose.
If you want to know more, I’ve just made one of my previously offered Jonni+Sage MasterCourses available online and on demand. It will take you on a journey to the afterlife. Not as a practice for dying. But as a journey toward greater living. And you don't have to have a near-death experience to gain the life-changing benefits. And for today only, it’s $22 - because it’s Connor’s birthday. https://www.jonnigray.com/about-afterlife